Holes in World's Reality (part 2)
Part 2 - In the previous, we saw how people with difficulties must learn to create a picture of reality.
Yes a Blind person accepts they can do Lawnbowling if they receive sufficient information. But as a handicap individual rebuild their life with the assistance they receive.(a wheelchair, a volunteer, memory remainders, and even medication) they want their weakness to be invisible.
Not wanting dependence,they create limits of assistance and visibility,and understanding that those around them will respect these limits. They do not see the difficulty with which friends and family find it impossible to not treat them differently.
Also when a friend has their accident which caused the handicap, all seem to be invisible to be accepting the new restrictions.. This is an invisible world we must walk into and live, whether the handicap individual or friends. How do we not see them and not want to help. How do we help without making them feel dependent. Can we talk about IT or never discuss IT.
A friend of mine who helps blind lawnbowlers often says to his charge. "Look at me, can't you see what I am saying ? You are doing this, or that" He is treating the individual as anyone else. However, same taboos exists like "Can't you see" could be replaced with " I am sure you see that..."
It is strange but the level of making the handicap invisible is in our own self. As long as we see them as different and are happy that has not happen to us; there is no way our expression, or actions can not reflect it.
So in part 1 we were talking about how these individuals accept holes in the reality of they world. How, things remain invisible until the result or information is received.
Would you believe our life is like that too.
Many of our actions have holes of delay between the start of the action and the results of action. Different results then we expected means changing our method of presentation of the action; whether an interview, a budget, a speech or other actions. We certainly, become use to periods of "no information"
Having given a rose to a lovely women, or your wife; You wait for her reply have expectation of what the results will be The invisible world of her thoughts and emotions become clear. (Most men are said to be in the dark as to that invisible world of women's emotions) Her immediately reply, if the rose wa given in person,has a very short delay and hole of visible understand. But waiting for her to call, can be long if the delivery by the flower shop.
Or you have send out invitations to friends for the weekend party and must wait for their decision and reply. Like the blind bowler, we know at a point we will have our results and information but the waiting forces us to living in an invisible world. Not knowing, not seeing what has happen.
Even receiving the phone call, we become blind and depend upon the voice to imagine the person. They could be wearing anything at the time, a suit, a rags or jeans or a housecoat. The phone is a door into the invisible world, and others want that invisibility as knowing they are not seen, seem to do strange things while on the phone. (read "Don't want to know" on Sept 17th)
This invisibility is a reality of our world. Like a Car rally, the Rally of events which are all invisible, as they arrive , or as we attempt to make them happen; we just go from point to point waiting for the best results in the end. We should see that layoff at work coming but facts made it invisible until the last few weeks. We should have seen that that friend was using us for a personal gain but we wanted their friendship so much we closed our eyes and let the best come out of it.
Point - We live everyday and every few minutes with holes in reality. Blind sports and hope in things coming out for the best. Our invisible world forces us to have confidence in what is to come next and wait for it. Knowing this invisibility of reality we can not worry about what is, whether invisible or visible, just not waste the time to worry about it. While going to the next checkpoint in our Rally through our invisible world we are living for the moment and happy for the chance. The world of reality is "Everything is not what it seems to be"
Part 2 - In the previous, we saw how people with difficulties must learn to create a picture of reality.
Yes a Blind person accepts they can do Lawnbowling if they receive sufficient information. But as a handicap individual rebuild their life with the assistance they receive.(a wheelchair, a volunteer, memory remainders, and even medication) they want their weakness to be invisible.
Not wanting dependence,they create limits of assistance and visibility,and understanding that those around them will respect these limits. They do not see the difficulty with which friends and family find it impossible to not treat them differently.
Also when a friend has their accident which caused the handicap, all seem to be invisible to be accepting the new restrictions.. This is an invisible world we must walk into and live, whether the handicap individual or friends. How do we not see them and not want to help. How do we help without making them feel dependent. Can we talk about IT or never discuss IT.
A friend of mine who helps blind lawnbowlers often says to his charge. "Look at me, can't you see what I am saying ? You are doing this, or that" He is treating the individual as anyone else. However, same taboos exists like "Can't you see" could be replaced with " I am sure you see that..."
It is strange but the level of making the handicap invisible is in our own self. As long as we see them as different and are happy that has not happen to us; there is no way our expression, or actions can not reflect it.
So in part 1 we were talking about how these individuals accept holes in the reality of they world. How, things remain invisible until the result or information is received.
Would you believe our life is like that too.
Many of our actions have holes of delay between the start of the action and the results of action. Different results then we expected means changing our method of presentation of the action; whether an interview, a budget, a speech or other actions. We certainly, become use to periods of "no information"
Having given a rose to a lovely women, or your wife; You wait for her reply have expectation of what the results will be The invisible world of her thoughts and emotions become clear. (Most men are said to be in the dark as to that invisible world of women's emotions) Her immediately reply, if the rose wa given in person,has a very short delay and hole of visible understand. But waiting for her to call, can be long if the delivery by the flower shop.
Or you have send out invitations to friends for the weekend party and must wait for their decision and reply. Like the blind bowler, we know at a point we will have our results and information but the waiting forces us to living in an invisible world. Not knowing, not seeing what has happen.
Even receiving the phone call, we become blind and depend upon the voice to imagine the person. They could be wearing anything at the time, a suit, a rags or jeans or a housecoat. The phone is a door into the invisible world, and others want that invisibility as knowing they are not seen, seem to do strange things while on the phone. (read "Don't want to know" on Sept 17th)
This invisibility is a reality of our world. Like a Car rally, the Rally of events which are all invisible, as they arrive , or as we attempt to make them happen; we just go from point to point waiting for the best results in the end. We should see that layoff at work coming but facts made it invisible until the last few weeks. We should have seen that that friend was using us for a personal gain but we wanted their friendship so much we closed our eyes and let the best come out of it.
Point - We live everyday and every few minutes with holes in reality. Blind sports and hope in things coming out for the best. Our invisible world forces us to have confidence in what is to come next and wait for it. Knowing this invisibility of reality we can not worry about what is, whether invisible or visible, just not waste the time to worry about it. While going to the next checkpoint in our Rally through our invisible world we are living for the moment and happy for the chance. The world of reality is "Everything is not what it seems to be"
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